Tuesday, June 17, 2008

Cameron's Big Day

On May 17, the day Cameron had been waiting for finally arrived. He had anticipated this day for months. He spoke about it to Grandma on the phone and even told strangers at the store that he was going to ride on Thomas the Train. As many of you know, Cameron is absolutely obsessed with trains and loves Thomas. When we learned about "A Day Out with Thomas" we couldn't pass up the chance to let him go. Lloyd took him the day after the Father/Son Campout. Cameron was definitely a lucky boy, camping with Daddy one day and riding Thomas the next. You can just see the excitement in his eyes!












Camping with Daddy was fun!

Cameron even got to meet Sir Topham Hatt after his train ride!

Friday, June 6, 2008

Sixteen Years Ago ...


Sixteen years ago today, on June 6, 1992, Lloyd and I met at a Single Adult Dance in Fremont, CA. We were both 18 years old. We sat down at the same table and I thought he was pretty cute. I thought he had great eyes! Later that night he asked me to dance. We started visiting and I learned he was in the Navy. He lived on an aircraft carrier stationed in Alameda. He got my phone number and we started dating that summer. This is a picture from that summer. I can't believe how young we were. After the summer, I went back to BYU and Lloyd continued in the Navy. After mostly a long-distance relationship, we got married 2 years and a month after we met.


Well, today on the anniversary of the day we met, we have an amazing treat. My brother, Bryce, and his wife are coming to stay with the kid for two nights while Lloyd and I are staying at a hotel in Pleasanton. It's not anything extravagant, but we are so excited to spend the weekend with each other. I am so grateful to my brother and his wife.


I just have to say, I am eternally grateful for my marriage to Lloyd. I don't want to brag, but I think I have the best husband. He is so supportive of me and is so sensitive to my needs. He works so hard for our family both around the house and at his job at SFO. I really don't know how he tolerates driving 180 miles a day just so we can live in a place where we can afford a home. I feel so lucky that after 14 years of marriage, Lloyd and I are still crazy in love. He is my favorite person to be with. Before we got married, he promised he would always treat me like a queen. Well, he truly does! I feel so lucky and blessed to be married to Lloyd. I am so glad that 16 years ago, he asked me to dance. I could not imagine my life without Lloyd.

Thursday, June 5, 2008

Scrapbooking Weekend

On Thursday, May 8, a few days before Mother's Day I went scrapbooking at a cabin with six other girls. We stayed there for two nights. It was such a treat to get away and get lots of scrapbooking done. They all thought I was crazy because I stayed up all night long on Thursday night and didn't go to bed until Friday night (Saturday morning) at 3:00 am. Here are my top five from our scrapbooking get away :


#5 - Staying at a beautiful cabin in the mountains (we even went for a walk)

#4 - Yummy food and lots of treats (we all took turns cooking)

#3 - Lots of "girl talk," laughter, and adult conversation

#2 - A break from our kids (between the 7 of us, we left behind 28 kids)

#1 - Completing beautiful, and creative scrapbook pages (we loved seeing each other's creations)

Kathryn, Me, and Starla






This is Stacey (she did all digital scrapbooking) and Lauri (her uncle let us use the cabin)








Katie and Ashleigh

I feel so blessed to have such special friends like these ladies. They are all very talented wives and mothers. I am grateful for their examples to me!

Conner's First Haircut





Conner got his first haircut on May 1. I know it was a while ago, but I've been going crazy with the end of the school year so I'm just posting these now. Well, he's is just the sweetest little boy! All of my kids have cried at their first haircuts, but not him. He sat so still and was the cutest thing. I'm having a hard time with him growing up, and am enjoying each moment we have.


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Daddy and Cameron got their hair cut too!

All done- how handsome!

Sunday, May 11, 2008

Motherhood

I have been wanting to do this post for a while, but am just now getting to it. Since today is Mother's Day, I guess it is especially appropriate. I have realized Motherhood is hard! I have always wanted to be a mother from the time I was a little girl. I've always loved children. I babysat a lot as a teenager and even chose to become an elementary school teacher. I guess I assumed motherhood would come naturally to me. Well, after almost 13 years of being a Mom and with five kids, I think being a mother is the toughest job in the world. There are so many things that make this job hard. First of all, our kids do not come with instruction manuals or recipes to follow in order to properly care for them. And even when we find something that works for one kid, it usually doesn't work for another. There is a lot of trial and error in motherhood. I feel I am constantly making mistakes and am amazed by any small success I do have. Another one of the hardest things about motherhood is the guilt that come with it. I don't have enough time and energy to do everything I would like to do for my kids. I feel worried that I am neglecting this child. I am discouraged when I lose my patience with another. I am disappointed in myself when I don't even want to be around my kids and sometimes even lock myself in my bedroom just to be alone. I wonder am I teaching them enough, am I being a good example, am I making sure they feel loved. Am I too hard or too easy on them? Do I play with them enough? Do I let my kids watch too much TV? Am I giving them opportunities to develop their talents or am I signing them up for too many activities? Should I use my energy to clean the house or should I let it go more often? Am I controlling them too much or am I letting them make their own decisions? Also, I feel guilty because amidst all the craziness and chaos of motherhood, it is important to live in the moment and enjoy this season because little children grow up so quickly. Sometimes you just want to get through the day! Another thing that makes motherhood hard is that we tend to compare ourselves with other moms. I sometimes wonder is it terrible that I don't sew my kids Halloween costumes when another mom does. Am I terrible when I yell at my kids and another mom always seems so calm. What about the mom who always has her hair and make up done and gets her kids to school early so they can read books together in the library (I am describing a real mom who has 5 kids and she's also thin)? I guess you can tell from this post that I have been really struggling with motherhood. With Lloyd working nights and commuting almost 4 hours a day, I do feel like a single mom a lot. I wish I was better at it!

Well, I have a couple things that have helped me with my struggles. First, I saw this quote on a plaque and I try to remember it when I start comparing myself to other moms: "There is no way to be a perfect mother ... ...but a million ways to be a good one." Also, I felt like Elder M. Russell Ballard's talk at the last General Conference was an answer to my prayers and it left me in tears. Like the quote above, he reminds young mothers: "There is no perfect way to be a good mother. Each situation is unique. Each mother has different challenges, different skills and abilities, and certainly different children." He also helped me to remember how important it is for me to take my challenges and concerns to the Lord in prayer. He states: "Parents can offer a unique and wonderful kind of prayer because they are praying to the Eternal Parent of us all. There is great power in a prayer that essentially says, 'We are steward-parents over Thy children, Father; please help us raise them as Thou wouldst want them raised.' " He emphasizes the fact that Heavenly Father wants us to be happy and successful with our families. This talk has blessed me.

Of course, a great way to deal with the stress of motherhood is to have a sense of humor about it. A lot of you have probably already seen the William Tell Overture song performed by Anita Renfroe. The link to it is below and it's fun to watch it again. It is so true and so funny!
http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=IGoelj7l668

I think gratitude is another way to deal with the stress of motherhood. I read the poem below on Laura's blog and I saved a copy of it. I typed it up to use in Conner's scrapbook. I love how sweet it is and it reminds me of the joy of motherhood:

The Little Things...
The work undone, the beds unmade,
The floor unswept, the meal delayed,
My food is growing cold,
The laundry I have yet to fold.
“I’m hungry, Mom,” the children say,
A thousand and one times a day.
And “Mommy will you read to me?” And “Mom, why can’t I watch TV?”
And “Mommy, hold me on your knee.”
And “Quickly Mom, I have to pee!”

Then finally everything is set.
The children’s needs have all been met,
And I can really sink my teeth
Into 1`my work with great relief.
Another sound. “Oh Dear,” I sigh—
My newborn son’s plaintive cry.
Now I must sit amidst debris
And nurse this infant quietly,
And dream of who I’d rather be, Disdaining mediocrity.

But as this angel snuggles in
And I caress his silken skin
And meditate on beauty here,
This tiny hand, this perfect ear
This life, this love, this holiness
I can forget about the mess
And know with utter clarity
My life is rich as rich can be.

I wonder when I’m old and gray,
Will I look back upon today
And wish I’d been a better Mom
By getting all the housework done?
I’d much prefer a memory
Of children smiling up at me,
Of walks and hugs and moments shared
Of taking time to show I cared.

Author Unknown

I want to emphasize that I am very grateful to be a mother. I adore my five children and the joy they bring me. I think motherhood is the "toughest job you'll ever love." I am thankful for the encouragement and support I receive from my friends who are also mothers of young children. I hope you all had a Happy Mother's Day. My Mother's Day came early this year with a facial last Monday and the scrapbook get away this past weekend. My children gave me lots of homemade gifts today from a coupon book, to a card with a stick of gum and candy taped to it, and an old necklace one of my girl's doesn't want any more. I got a lot of hugs and a lot of love. No one complained when I asked them to help either. What a treat! I felt very special today. I am so very blessed!

A Tag from Laura (Resse Family)

4 Things I Was Doing 10 Years Ago (1998):
- had my second daughter on May 31
-going to school for my MA degree
-teaching second and third grades
-living in an apartment in San Jose

4 Things I Was Doing 5 Years Ago (2003):
-had three daughters
-was the Relief Society President at church
-was a Brownie Girl Scout leader
-turned 30

4 Things I Did Yesterday:
-returned home from a scrapbooking weekend (post about it to come)
-hugged and kissed my 16 month old
-watched Enchanted on Pay Per View
-told my husband how much I love him

4 Shows I Love to Watch:
-The Bachelor
-Jon and Kate Plus 8
-Dateline/20-20 Murder Mysteries
-Gymnastics competitions

4 Things That Make Me Really Happy:
-going on dates with my husband
-taking naps or sleeping in
-exercise
-family vacations (but not the packing part)

I challenge anyone who has a blog to share their answers too.

My Mother

On this Mother's Day I wanted to take a moment to pay tribute to my mother. I have noticed that when people are asked who their greatest hero is or who has influenced them the most, they almost always describe one of their parents. I think this is because we get to know our parents on a much more intimate level than other people in our lives. Our parents, especially our mothers give more service to us than any other person. I am so grateful for all that my mother has done for me. She has been my caregiver, my teacher, my cheerleader, my example, and my friend. I am the oldest which means I was my mom's first baby. She adores this first picture of us right after I was born. Although her labor was extremely long and I was a posterior baby, I think she was excited about becoming a mother for the first time. Because I was the oldest, my mom was able to give me a lot of attention as a young child. I remember singing in the car with my mom as we did errands around town. I remember she always dressed me in cute outfits and made sure my hair looked nice. She made a big deal out of birthdays and holidays; they were always so fun. When I became an older child, my mom would help me with my homework. She would let me have playdates and signed me up for Girl Scouts, dance, gymnastics, etc. I have always been in awe of my mom's many talents. She is a great cook. She loves to bake at Christmas time and is especially good at candy making. She loved to can and dehydrate foods. She loves to give gifts and always adds an extra touch when she does her gift wrapping. She always kept a very clean and orderly house which has somewhat rubbed off on me. My mom is a very compassionate person and loves to serve others. I recall her bringing many meals to those in need or supporting others when they were going through a rough time. My mom is a nurse and has always enjoyed caring for others. The most important thing my mom has taught me is the gospel of Jesus Christ. My mother joined the Church when she was 16 years old. She has a strong testimony and strives to keep the commandments. She is always mindful of the Savior and tries to follow His example. She also relies on the Holy Ghost to guide her daily. I am so grateful for my mom's two best friends who shared the gospel with her. I am so thankful I was raised in a home where I was taught the gospel. Now my mom is a great grandma to my kids. She takes my girls school shopping. She has them over to her home for sleepovers and day trips. Of course, birthdays and holidays are still a big deal. She listens to me and gives me encouragement. She reminds me to read the scriptures. She has been a counselor to me when I served as the Activities Chairman and Relief Society President. She sends me cards and praises me when I need it. I am so grateful for this woman and the many ways she has influenced me. Thank you, Mom. I love you!